You and your roommate can be very different and still have a successful roommate relationship. It is important that your expectations are realistic or you may be disappointed. Don't expect your roommate to be just like you or your friends from home. It's normal to encounter some problems. After all, it's unrealistic to expect two strangers who share a small space to agree all the time. Basically, getting along with a roommate involves 3 Cs: courtesy, communication, and compromise.
Conflict with roommates is one of the greatest contributors to dissatisfaction. Because of the relatively transitional nature of “the college years,” residents come into continual contact with values and attitudes different from their own. One way to avoid conflict due to differing expectations is for roommates to negotiate what is going to happen in the room/apartment and to make a contract concerning what behavior is appropriate. Talking about expectations early will eliminate a lot of misunderstandings in the future.
The following are examples of issues which roommates may want to negotiate early in the year:
2. Sleeping and personal grooming schedules
4. Television and stereo use - Noise control
5. Use of Personal Property (i.e. lending and borrowing)
6. Non-use of alcoholic beverages and/or drugs
7. Food (i.e. sharing)
8. Morning and evening schedules
9. Communication Styles - How do I express that you are bugging me and not hurt your feelings?
How do I tell you I’m not happy?
11. Locking the room/apartment doors
12. Guests - When are they ok?
13. Sharing expenses (i.e. cleaning supplies, toilet paper, etc.)
In an effort to encourage students who live on-campus at South to take ownership and responsibility for their living community, USA Housing incorporates Roommate Agreements as a foundation for successful roommate partnerships. A Roommate Agreement is a document that room or apartment members negotiate together at the beginning of each year/semester (or as needed). This tool is intended to promote dialogue and consensus about matters pertaining to living as roommates including, but not limited to:
• Guests and visitation
• Cleanliness and "chores"
• Study needs
About the Process: As a room/apartment, residents convene and develop a set of value-based criteria
by which resident of the room/apartment will agree to live, using the Roommate Agreement obtained online to guide them through this conversation(s). Additionally, the Roommate Agreement can be revisited at any time to allow for adjustments and changes. As each member
of the room/apartment will sign the Roommate Agreement, each member will be held accountable for the contents of the document they had part
Note: All decisions must be consistent with the USA Housing Community Standards, the Housing Contract Terms and Conditions, and the Student Code of Conduct.